The following sympathy sayings template allows you to say as much or as little as you care to elaborate when writing a sympathy letter or card.
Offer your condolences. Talk about the person who died/or the loss in summary. Offer some specific aid (optional). Closing salutation.
Simple enough isn’t it? The same template can be used in any number of condolence situations. We have provided some example sympathy sayings to help you get started in writing your own sympathy card messages.
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your father. I can’t even begin to imagine the pain of losing a parent. Although I didn’t know your father very well, he was always so kind and fun loving. I will miss speaking with him about his beautiful roses – he was such a key figure in our community. Since I only live a few doors down from his house, please let me know if I can help pick up any mail, or address any minor maintenance needs. I would be happy to mow the lawn for the next month if that would help, for instance. Please take care and let me know if I can be of any help.
Still anxious because you didn’t know the person who died but still want to send a sympathy card message? This is rather more difficult because you won’t be able to talk about the person. All is not lost, however. On these occasions, you can substitute sympathy sayings that highlight the special qualities of the deceased, based on what you have observed or have heard from other people.
I am so sorry for the loss of your father. I can’t even begin to imagine the pain of losing a parent. I can tell that you had a very special bond from the way you have often spoken lovingly about your father. Your selfless support throughout his illness is a testament to your love. He raised an wonderful and loving daughter. I expect you will have many arrangements to see to in upcoming weeks. I would be happy to take care of the dogs for a few days if it would be helpful. You and John are in our thoughts and prayers.
Pam and Denis
Still at a loss as to how to write a sympathy card when the loss is about someone you don’t know? Are you still struggling to make it personal and genuine?
For additional inspiration, look at this letter that was written by Abraham Lincoln to a mother who lost several sons during the civil war. Lincoln had never met her nor any of her children.
I have been shown in the files of the War Department a statement of the Adjutant-General of Massachusetts that you are the mother of five sons who have died gloriously on the field of battle. I feel how weak and fruitless must be any words of mine which should attempt to beguile you from the grief of a loss so overwhelming. But I cannot refrain from tendering you the consolation that may be found in the thanks of the Republic they died to save. I pray that our Heavenly Father may assuage the anguish of your bereavement, and leave you only the cherished memory of the loved and lost, and the solemn pride that must be yours to have laid so costly a sacrifice upon the altar of freedom.
Yours very sincerely and respectfully,
Like Abraham Lincoln, you can be sure that your friend will feel the intention behind your note.
Once you have decided on the most appropriate sympathy sayings for your situation, we suggest reviewing our list of great closing salutations.
Also, now that you know where to start in writing your sympathy card message, you might want to check out some of our other posts on supporting a friend or family member who is hurting.
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